
Vol.
VII
Priorities,
priorities
by Abbey Roy
If you have been blessed with the financial
capacity to throw a no-expense-spared wedding, let me be the
first to offer you my sincerest congratulations. That’s
really awesome, and I’m sure you will put together a
marvelous celebration.
If you haven’t been quite so fortunate, don’t
fret. Weddings are all about being creative, as you will have
noted
from my previous columns. For you, planning might be a little
more stressful and have you thinking a bit harder, but no matter
what your budget, you can plan an unforgettable day.
If you’re in the position of having to be a bit more discerning
in terms of budgetary decisions, allow me to offer you some guidance
from my own experience. It involves categorizing your expenses
into what I will term “scrimp-worthy” and “non-scrimp-worthy.”
Allow me to explain.
There are ways to cut corners with certain
aspects of a wedding, like printing your own invitations instead
of hiring someone
else to do it, or cutting out one entrée on your menu — even
hosting a lunch or dessert reception instead of a dinner. The
list could go on.
But there are certain areas in which cost-cutting can make a
noticeable difference in the final outcome of your day, or afterwards.
These particular areas, which I consider “non-scrimp-worthy,” will
remain with you and/or your guests after your big day is over.
Want them to remember a special wedding and a great party? Consider
sliding these two up on your budget priority list:
1. Photographer. Yes, wedding photography
can be expensive, expensive, expensive these days. I encourage
you to shop around
(we found a fabulous photographer online in no short amount of
time) and definitely stay within your budget, but keep in mind
that the images from this day will be what you have to remember
it by long after — and I mean LONG after — your wedding
day.
While there are options for cost-cutting
(checking out who’s
available in the photo program at an area university, for example),
make sure before you sign the dotted line that you know what
you’re getting. Look at the photographer’s work (Is
it a style you like? Most do photojournalistic, formal or a mix)
and see if the style fits your qualifications. Ask about experience
and see what kinds of packages are available.
As part of our package, our photographer
offered us a DVD with every image that she’d taken. (Yes, a lot of photos) — no
prints. The benefit of this was that we could print how many
photos we wanted, in what sizes we wanted and when we wanted
to.
Our wedding album has earned the accolades of many, and we have
an amazing variety of shots to reflect on for years to come.
2. Entertainment. I’m
not writing this because I’m
writing for a DJ’s Web site, though I’d be amiss
for not saying we were extremely pleased with our reception entertainment.
I have not been recruited to write this — I’m writing
sincerely, as an “experienced” wedding-goer.
Please, please, please make sure
you invest in your entertainment, because that’s likely
how your guests will remember the vibe of your reception. This
doesn’t necessarily mean springing
for a six-piece brass ensemble or having a special guest star;
it does mean carefully considering the makeup of your audience
and what it will take for them to have an enjoyable time. If
you can find a DJ (or band) who is good at gauging that,
you’ve done a good job.
I won’t get into the specifics of music choices, because
you can find that information elsewhere on this site. But one
thing you don’t want is a bland reception, and if you take
risks with your entertainment, you risk losing your guests’ attention.
Sure, they’ve come first and foremost to support the two
of you — but (here’s a little secret) they also want
to have a good time. So do your research and give them what they’ve
come for.
-- Abbey
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More
Wedding Zone Advice and Tips

CREATIVE IDEAS
Instead of numbering tables, name your tables. You can name your
tables after favorite places. We saw one couple that was from
the Columbus area and attended Ohio State University that named
their tables after favorite area landmarks, buildings on campus,
and other places that they enjoyed going to. At each table the
couple put a card naming the table and explaining why that place
was special to them. While your guests are going around looking
for their table, they will learn a little more about the two
of you.
Publish your own wedding newsletter to be passed out as a keepsake.

MUSIC IDEAS
Wedding Ceremony Selections:
Processionals
Canon In D - Pachelbel
Trumpet Voluntary - Clarke
Bridal March - Wagner
Recessionals
Wedding March - Mendelssohn
Trumpet Tune - Purcel
Wedding Reception Selections:
Father/Bride Dance
Daddy's Little Girl - Al Martino
Butterfly Kisses - Bob Carlisle
I Loved Her First - Heartland
Unforgettable - Natalie / Nat King Cole
Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Hero - Mariah Carey
Mother/Groom Dance
A Song For My Son - Mickey Viereck
Mama - Boyz II Men
Unforgettable - Natalie / Nat King Cole
Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Hero - Mariah Carey
Bridal Party Dance
Unchained Melody - Righteous Brothers
Unforgettable - Natalie / Nat King Cole
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Wonderful Tonight - Eric Clapton
Bouquet Toss
Chapel Of Love - Dixie Cups
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun - Cyndi Lauper
Oh Yeah! - Yello
Garter Removal, Garter Toss, and Garter Remount (this
part is optional)
The Stripper - David Rose
Legs - ZZ Top
You Can Leave Your Hat On - Joe Cocker
Oh Yeah! - Yello
Anniversary Dance
For The Good Times - Ray Price
Grow Old With Me - Mary Chapin Carpenter
Last Dance
The Way You Look Tonight - Frank Sinatra or Steve Tyrell
New York, New York - Frank Sinatra
That's What Friends Are For - Dionne Warwick and Friends
I've Had The Time Of My Life - Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes
Goodnight Sweetheart - The Spaniels
Last Dance - Donna Summer
Need more ideas? Here's the Top 200 requested
wedding songs of all time!
List
of the Top 200 Most Request Wedding Songs

MONEY SAVING IDEAS
Tuxedos...
Many of the larger tuxedo chains will have
a special outlet store within their chain where used tuxedos
are often available for purchase at prices often lower than
what it would cost to rent a tuxedo. Think about it... even
if the tuxedo is never worn again and thrown away, you will
save money. Also, the tuxedo can be dry cleaned and saved for
use on a cruise or a future formal function.
The one down side is that there may be less of a variety of accessories
such as vests and ties available for purchase in the colors you
desire. However, if you have a smaller wedding party, no wedding
party (just the groom in a tux), or can live with black or white
as your vest and tie colors (these colors go well with almost
anything), purchasing a used tuxedo versus renting might be a
great idea for you.
Disposable
cameras...
As cell phone cameras have become so commonplace,
fewer and fewer guests that want to take a picture will bother
to do so with the disposable cameras that are placed on tables
at receptions. In our many years of providing entertainment
at weddings, we often see these cameras not even used at the
end of the night.
If you do have your heart set on these cameras, save money by
purchasing them at a wholesale club in large quantity and check
the "must use by" date. These cameras get the best
results with fresh film, so do not buy these cameras a year before
your wedding. Also, don't bother with the specially decorated
wedding models. These cameras often have a lesser quality film
inside and cost many times what a name brand camera will cost
at a wholesale club.
Do you have a money saving tip you would like to
share? Email
us.

FORGOTTEN THINGS AT WEDDING
RECEPTIONS
Caterer or bartender does not have the
champaign or preferred beverage ready on the table for the
toast. Also, having the appropriate glassware for the toast
on the head table is overlooked.
Bride misplaces the "toss" bouquet.
Bride forgets the garter.
Cutlery to be used for the cutting of the wedding cake is forgotten
or not placed by the cake when needed. Also, couples need to
review with their caterer whose responsibility it will be to
cut and serve the wedding cake as all caterers do not provide
this as a service.
Parents of the bride or groom cannot be found when it is their
time to dance with their son or daughter.
Members of the bridal party cannot be found when it is their
time to be introduced or dance together.
Person giving a toast makes their speech but forgets to raise
their glass to conclude the toast.
There is no special basket or wishing well to use for the money
dance.
Vendors that arrive ahead of time before the wedding, such as
a florist or cake decorator, do not know where to drop off or
set up their goods.
The bride and groom or a guest provides the DJ with a burned
cd having a special song that the DJ may not have. They failed
to test the cd ahead of time in a car stereo or boombox to make
sure that it burned correctly. Even though the cd works on the
computer, it may not have burned properly to play in a regular
cd player. Always check!

RUDE
GUEST BEHAVIOR
Guests do not turn off their cell phones or pagers even when
asked to do so before a wedding ceremony. I have seen them go
off during many a wedding ceremony. I even saw one guest take
the call and tell the caller that they would call them back in
a few minutes.
Guests do a variety of rude cell phone
behaviors at the wedding reception such as taking calls at
their table, surfing the internet and texting.
Guests that fail to honor the tradition
that the bride and groom should have the first dance of the
evening by going out onto the dance floor and dancing during
or after the dinner.
Fighting. Yes, many couples fight at weddings.