Vol. II

Nervous? Nah. Excited? Oh, yeah!
by Abbey Stirgwolt

As my Big Day (Oct. 25) rapidly approaches, I’ve noticed that a number of people have asked me if I’m nervous.

That is a question I’ve pondered more than once, the most recent occasion being yesterday, and to be honest, I think my answer is still, “No, not really.”

As the days between “today” and “wedding day” creep down into the single digits, I keep telling myself that I’ll start getting jittery before too long. And I can 100 percent guarantee that, when I am standing on the opposite side of the door to the sanctuary, waiting for the door to open so I can walk down the aisle, I will be nervous.

But up to this point — and I credit much of this to my probably-too-laid-back demeanor — I have been taking things in stride and, to be cliché, “going with the flow.”
Which leads me down memory lane to a formulaic timeline that I believe every bride follows, to some extent or another.

For me, it went something like this:

1. Post-engagement excitement: You’ve got the ring on your finger. Quick! Go out and buy bridal magazines, start dress shopping, book your venue, pick your colors…Oh, yeah. And set a date.

2. Planning kick-off: Now you start to delve into personal style. Who will your bridesmaids be? What will they wear? What do you want your invitations to look like? What will your “vibe” be? Note: At the end of this phase usually comes “The Dress.”

3. Doldrums: Well, all the major things have been taken care of. The Save-the-Dates have been sent out, it’s too early to send out invitations, you have a thing to do here or there (work out décor, maybe a rough idea of the menu, etc.), but nothing major. For me, Doldrums meant Big Decline in Planning Motivation. I’m sure that’s not the case for everyone.

4. Sporadic Frenzies: The Doldrums are often broken up with Sporadic Frenzies, wherein you realize there’s something important you need to be working on and don’t have as much time to do it as you thought. Example: I ordered my invitations pre-printed, but decided to embellish them by mounting them on cardstock and adding ribbon. One morning, I woke up and realized that I had 150 cards to cut, ribbons to trim and papers to glue, which probably would occupy a significant amount of time. That got me going, at least for a while.

5. Gradual Realization: This is the phase I am in right now. It will probably lead up to a sixth, which I perhaps will call “The Moment of Truth.” Gradual Realization is the period that sneakily creeps up during Doldrums and Sporadic Frenzies, when you actually stop and think, “Wow. I am getting married in X amount of time. That’s getting closer and closer!”

At what point does Gradual Realization give way to The Moment of Truth? I have no answer for that. Perhaps, for me, it will be the moment I am standing behind the sanctuary door, waiting for it to open so I walk down the aisle. The door will open, all eyes will be on me, and — wow — I will be getting married.

Whatever the case, I have vowed to spend my remaining pre-wedding days not necessarily in a state of nervousness, but in excitement, relishing the change that is about to happen but being grateful for what life has been up to this point.

What a great day it’s going to be!
I’ll keep you posted.

-- Abbey

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More Wedding Zone Advice and Tips

CREATIVE IDEAS

Instead of numbering tables, name your tables. You can name your tables after favorite places. We saw one couple that was from the Columbus area and attended Ohio State University that named their tables after favorite area landmarks, buildings on campus, and other places that they enjoyed going to. At each table the couple put a card naming the table and explaining why that place was special to them. While your guests are going around looking for their table, they will learn a little more about the two of you.

Publish your own wedding newsletter to be passed out as a keepsake.

MUSIC IDEAS

Wedding Ceremony Selections:

Processionals

Canon In D - Pachelbel
Trumpet Voluntary - Clarke
Bridal March - Wagner

Recessionals

Wedding March - Mendelssohn
Trumpet Tune - Purcel

Wedding Reception Selections:

Father/Bride Dance

Daddy's Little Girl - Al Martino
Butterfly Kisses - Bob Carlisle
I Loved Her First - Heartland
Unforgettable - Natalie / Nat King Cole
Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Hero - Mariah Carey

Mother/Groom Dance

A Song For My Son - Mickey Viereck
Mama - Boyz II Men
Unforgettable - Natalie / Nat King Cole
Wind Beneath My Wings - Bette Midler
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Hero - Mariah Carey

Bridal Party Dance

Unchained Melody - Righteous Brothers
Unforgettable - Natalie / Nat King Cole
What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
Wonderful Tonight - Eric Clapton

Bouquet Toss

Chapel Of Love - Dixie Cups
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun - Cyndi Lauper
Oh Yeah! - Yello

Garter Removal, Garter Toss, and Garter Remount (this part is optional)

The Stripper - David Rose
Legs - ZZ Top
You Can Leave Your Hat On - Joe Cocker
Oh Yeah! - Yello

Anniversary Dance

For The Good Times - Ray Price
Grow Old With Me - Mary Chapin Carpenter

Last Dance

The Way You Look Tonight - Frank Sinatra or Steve Tyrell
New York, New York - Frank Sinatra
That's What Friends Are For - Dionne Warwick and Friends
I've Had The Time Of My Life - Bill Medley and Jennifer Warnes
Goodnight Sweetheart - The Spaniels
Last Dance - Donna Summer

Need more ideas? Here's the Top 200 requested wedding songs of all time!

List of the Top 200 Most Request Wedding Songs

 

MONEY SAVING IDEAS

Tuxedos...

Many of the larger tuxedo chains will have a special outlet store within their chain where used tuxedos are often available for purchase at prices often lower than what it would cost to rent a tuxedo. Think about it... even if the tuxedo is never worn again and thrown away, you will save money. Also, the tuxedo can be dry cleaned and saved for use on a cruise or a future formal function.

The one down side is that there may be less of a variety of accessories such as vests and ties available for purchase in the colors you desire. However, if you have a smaller wedding party, no wedding party (just the groom in a tux), or can live with black or white as your vest and tie colors (these colors go well with almost anything), purchasing a used tuxedo versus renting might be a great idea for you.

Disposable cameras...

As cell phone cameras have become so commonplace, fewer and fewer guests that want to take a picture will bother to do so with the disposable cameras that are placed on tables at receptions. In our many years of providing entertainment at weddings, we often see these cameras not even used at the end of the night.

If you do have your heart set on these cameras, save money by purchasing them at a wholesale club in large quantity and check the "must use by" date. These cameras get the best results with fresh film, so do not buy these cameras a year before your wedding. Also, don't bother with the specially decorated wedding models. These cameras often have a lesser quality film inside and cost many times what a name brand camera will cost at a wholesale club.

Do you have a money saving tip you would like to share? Email us.

FORGOTTEN THINGS AT WEDDING RECEPTIONS

Caterer or bartender does not have the champaign or preferred beverage ready on the table for the toast. Also, having the appropriate glassware for the toast on the head table is overlooked.

Bride misplaces the "toss" bouquet.

Bride forgets the garter.

Cutlery to be used for the cutting of the wedding cake is forgotten or not placed by the cake when needed. Also, couples need to review with their caterer whose responsibility it will be to cut and serve the wedding cake as all caterers do not provide this as a service.

Parents of the bride or groom cannot be found when it is their time to dance with their son or daughter.

Members of the bridal party cannot be found when it is their time to be introduced or dance together.

Person giving a toast makes their speech but forgets to raise their glass to conclude the toast.

There is no special basket or wishing well to use for the money dance.

Vendors that arrive ahead of time before the wedding, such as a florist or cake decorator, do not know where to drop off or set up their goods.

The bride and groom or a guest provides the DJ with a burned cd having a special song that the DJ may not have. They failed to test the cd ahead of time in a car stereo or boombox to make sure that it burned correctly. Even though the cd works on the computer, it may not have burned properly to play in a regular cd player. Always check!

RUDE GUEST BEHAVIOR

Guests do not turn off their cell phones or pagers even when asked to do so before a wedding ceremony. I have seen them go off during many a wedding ceremony. I even saw one guest take the call and tell the caller that they would call them back in a few minutes.

Guests do a variety of rude cell phone behaviors at the wedding reception such as taking calls at their table, surfing the internet and texting.

Guests that fail to honor the tradition that the bride and groom should have the first dance of the evening by going out onto the dance floor and dancing during or after the dinner.

Fighting. Yes, many couples fight at weddings.